Wendy-O Matik (born Wendy Millstine on July 19, 1966 in Covina, California) is a Bay Area based freelance writer, poet, performance and spoken word artist, and radical love activist. Her website defines radical love as "the freedom to love whom you want, how you want, and as many as you want, so long as personal integrity, respect, honesty, and consent are at the core of any and all relationships."

She graduated from the University of California, Berkeley in 1988 with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Political Science, and also holds a state-certified degree as a holistic Nutrition Consultant, specializing in diet and stress reduction, from Bauman College, Berkeley, CA (2006).

Her book Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships was published in 2002: it has been reprinted several times, and is now required reading in the human sexuality class at San Francisco State University. Since its publication, she has taught over a hundred Radical Love & Relationship workshops internationally. She is often invited to speak at venues such as universities and progressive bookstores. She has been described by the magazine Profane Existence as "a special kind of revolutionary woman".


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Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships, Defiant Times Press (2002), ISBN 1-58790-015-7 (7th printing),


Five Good Minutes: 100 Morning Practices To Help You Stay Calm & Focused All Day Long ISBN 1572244143, New Harbinger Publications (2005),

Five Good Minutes in the Evening: 100 Mindful Practices to Help You Unwind from the Day & Make the Most of Your Night ISBN 1572244550 (2006),

Five Good Minutes at Work: 100 Mindful Practices to Help You Relieve Stress & Bring Your Best to Work ISBN 1572244909 (2007),

Five Good Minutes With the One You Love: 100 Mindful Practices to Deepen & Renew Your Love Every Day ISBN 1572245123 (2008),

Five Good Minutes in Your Body: 100 Mindful Practices to Help You Accept Yourself and Feel at Home in Your Body ISBN 1572245964 (2009),

Daily Meditations for Calming Your Anxious Mind, New Harbinger Publications ISBN 1572245409 (2008),

The Power of Connection: 50 Meditations to Nurture Your Sense of Connection to Yourself, Others, & the World Around You, New Harbinger Publications, (Spring 2011),


Sex & Relationships: An Anthology, ISBN 0757516645 edited by John Elia, Ph.D. & Ivy Chen, MPH, Kendall/Hunt Publishing (2005),

In Our Own Words: A Generation Defining Itself, edited by Marlow Peerse Weaver, MW Enterprises (2005),

Concrete Dreams: Manic D Press Early Works, ISBN 0916397750 Manic D Press (2002),

Revival: Spoken Word from Lollapalooza '94, ISBN 0916397416 Manic D Press (1995),

Signs of Life: Channel Surfing Through '90s Culture, ISBN 0916397211 Manic D Press (1994),

Psyche Subversion, Andromeda Press (1992),


What I Left Behind, Defiant Times Press (2003),

Damaged Goods, Defiant Times Press (2001),

Gutless, Defiant Times Press (1998),

Love Like Rage, Manic D Press (1994) ISBN 0-916397-31-9,

Fill It Full of Holes, Defiant Times Press (1995),

She Knew Better, Manic D Press (1992),

So Much for Passion, Manic D Press (1990)